So much of what you said resonates with me - I also used to equate feedback with failure. Now I try and reframe it as 'helping me become a better writer' but I do still find it painful! Here are my 7 strategies for dealing with feedback with self-compassion: https://sanjidakay.substack.com/p/how-to-deal-with-feedback
Thank you so much for reading, Sanjida! And thank you for sharing these strategies, which are much more constructive than some of my own (such as the one where I throw up my hands and decide it’s time to become a llama farmer). I really appreciate your taking the time to respond here!
Thank you - although I have also contemplated being a llama farmer - even going on a day course! And also crying into my wine isn’t helpful either, but I hope some of our combined strategies will be of help!
Loved this post, Mary! I've been incredibly grateful for feedback on my work this week - I was nervous about it precisely because, as you say, I hadn't handed in anything until a draft was complete and then it felt like the stakes were high! The feedback I got was incredibly encouraging, as well as constructive and precise, but I'm going to try and take on board what you say here to think about how sharing work earlier on might be more beneficial (and less nerve-wracking). Thanks as always for the insights!
Thank you so much for this generous comment, Hannah!! I’m so glad you found it helpful, and *especially* glad that you recently got helpful feedback on your work. I just wish I’d learned how/when to solicit feedback much earlier in my career! 😂
So much of what you said resonates with me - I also used to equate feedback with failure. Now I try and reframe it as 'helping me become a better writer' but I do still find it painful! Here are my 7 strategies for dealing with feedback with self-compassion: https://sanjidakay.substack.com/p/how-to-deal-with-feedback
Thanks Mary! Great to read this post.
Thank you so much for reading, Sanjida! And thank you for sharing these strategies, which are much more constructive than some of my own (such as the one where I throw up my hands and decide it’s time to become a llama farmer). I really appreciate your taking the time to respond here!
Thank you - although I have also contemplated being a llama farmer - even going on a day course! And also crying into my wine isn’t helpful either, but I hope some of our combined strategies will be of help!
Loved this post, Mary! I've been incredibly grateful for feedback on my work this week - I was nervous about it precisely because, as you say, I hadn't handed in anything until a draft was complete and then it felt like the stakes were high! The feedback I got was incredibly encouraging, as well as constructive and precise, but I'm going to try and take on board what you say here to think about how sharing work earlier on might be more beneficial (and less nerve-wracking). Thanks as always for the insights!
Thank you so much for this generous comment, Hannah!! I’m so glad you found it helpful, and *especially* glad that you recently got helpful feedback on your work. I just wish I’d learned how/when to solicit feedback much earlier in my career! 😂
Thanks, Mary! I'll certainly try to learn how to ask for earlier feedback, as I completely agree with what you're saying!